A notification popped up on my phone the other day and my heart sank to my stomach as soon as I saw who it was: an ex-boyfriend.

Someone I’d dated many years ago had commented on an Instagram I’d just posted about relationships.

Oy vey.

I braced myself for what I thought would be a critical jab at me and slowly opened the app the see what he’d written.

Turns out, his comment actually warmed my heart.

He wrote, “Jordan, you taught me my favorite definition of intimacy. I’ll never forget it.”

I knew exactly what he was talking about.

Wrapped in blankets on his couch in the West Village one cold winter night, we were having some deep conversation about the concept of intimacy.

“What does intimacy really even mean?” he asked.

I remembered some wise words from life coach Iyanla Vanzant and replied, “Intimacy is the feeling of being seen for who we truly are beyond the surface. Intimacy means into me you see.”

It’s kind of corny — but so very true.

That particular romance of mine didn’t last forever. In fact, most people’s romances don’t. But just because a relationship has ended does not mean that it’s a failure.

Here’s my prayer for any romance I found myself in:

May my relationships expand my vision of the kind of intimacy that’s possible for my life. Click To Tweet

After your relationship ends, if you can look back and see that you let down your defenses enough so that another human being could see you even just a little more clearly for who you really are, your relationship wasn’t a failure.

On a spiritual level, your relationship was a dazzling success because it fulfilled its ultimate purpose: to open you up to yourself.

That is one of the many relationship lessons I’ve learned to be true.

What I’m about to share with you today is simply the best romance and intimacy guidance I’ve ever come across.

Last year, a longtime follower named Michelle introduced me via Twitter to Ken Page, the renowned psychotherapist and intimacy expert.

Just one week later, I sat down with Ken for what would be an unforgettable meeting.

He handed me a signed copy of his book Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy and began to teach me lessons directly from the book.

Ken’s sweet note to me.

Smack dab in the middle of a busy New York restaurant, Ken taught me why I don’t need to “fix” myself to find love. He taught me how my deepest insecurities actually reveal my greatest gifts.

He even taught me how people can lose their sexual attraction to people who diminish their self-esteem. (This is good stuff!)

My eyes welled up with tears.

I was thinking about how I could apply these transformative romance tools to my own life — of course — but my most urgent thought was how desperately my audience needed Ken in their lives, too.

“These teachings are going to change people’s lives, Ken.”

That day, I promised Ken I’d do everything in my power to spread his inspiring message to those who need to hear it.

If you’ve never heard of Ken Page before, I’m honored to be the person who introduces you to him.

Buy his incredibly wise book Deeper Dating to learn:

  • How your deepest insecurities reveal your greatest gifts
  • How to attract people who love you for who you really are
  • How to tell which attractions lead to love — and which lead to pain
  • How to stop being turned on by people who lower your self-esteem and instead develop an attraction to people who are good for you.

I know in my heart of hearts that Ken was born to relay these teachings, which soothe souls and work miracles in the lives of countless people.

Part of what made me cry during our first meeting is because I know that Ken’s work isn’t just changing lives, it’s also saving lives.

This is particularly true because these teachings are 100% inclusive of LGBTQ+ relationships. (Ken himself is a married gay man.)

Please take a moment to share this page with anyone you love—gay, straight, man, woman—who is seeking authentic, soul-healing love. It may be the miracle they’ve been praying for.

Wishing you great love,


P.S. – Check out my free 60-minute webinar “How to Manifest Romance” – I recorded it one night just sitting on my couch with my laptop (no fancy camera or bright lights) and yet it’s one of my most popular videos ever. I hope it serves you.